Recently, there has been some news headlines about "marital rape" which need to be analyzed from a Biblical point of view, being that
rumor has it that the "women's Me-Too movement" has pushed the issue out into the public arena, and affected statute legislation.
Several Scripture passages immediately and appropriately come to mind:
Genesis 3:16 To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply your sorrow and conception, in pain you shall bear children, but your desire shall be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
Genesis 24:8 "But if the woman is not willing to follow you, then you will be free from this oath of mine; only you must not take my son back there."
Genesis 24:58 And they called Rebekah, and said to her, "Will you go with this man?" She said, "I will go."
Leviticus 18:19 You shall not approach a woman to uncover her nakedness while she is in her menstrual uncleanness.
First Samuel 25:39 When David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, "Blessed be the LORD who has avenged the insult I received at the hand of Nabal, and has kept back his servant from evil; the LORD has returned the evil-doing of Nabal upon his own head." Then David sent and wooed Abigail, to make her his wife.
Romans 7:22 I delight in the Law [not gospel, nor salvation by faith alone?] of God, in my inmost self...
First Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote. It is well for a man to not (NOT: not to -- be positive not negative; not's are infinitely nothings, whereas to's directly refer to one real object) touch a woman (contrary the the errant and hideous heretic NIV, the word here is NOT: "marry!).
2 But because of the temptation to "immorality" (i.e. fornication, although lusting to porn is certainly immoral), each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a while, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control.
6 I say this by way of concession, not of command.
7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.
8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do.
9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry, because it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion.
10 To the married I give charge, not I but the Lord, that the wife should not separate from her husband
11 (but if she does, let her remain single or else be reconciled to her husband) --and that the husband should not divorce his wife.
12 To the others I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever (or even a never-believed-in-the-first-place disbeliever), and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her.
13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him,
14 because the unbelieving husband is consecrated through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is consecrated through her husband.
Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but as it is they are holy.
15 But if the unbelieving partner desires to separate, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound, because God has called us to peace.
Second Corinthians 5:18 ...be reconciled on behalf of Christ to (yourself? No. others? No.) God.
Second Corinthians 6:14 Do not be [mismated] with disbelievers, because what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? What fellowship has light with darkness?
Philemon 1:14 but I preferred to do nothing without your consent so that (NOT: "in order that") your goodness be not (NOT: "might not be") by compulsion but of your own free will.
Titus 2:4 Train the young women to love their husbands...
Titus 2:5 to be sensible, chaste, domestic, kind, and submissive to their husbands, that the Word of God be not (NOT: "is not") discredited.
James 2:19 You believe that God is one; you do well. Even the demons "believe" -- and shudder.
James 2:24 You see that a person is justified by works [ of and for the Law, not against the Law ] and not by faith (belief and trust in Christ as atoning Redeemer) alone.
First Peter 3:6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him sir. And you are now her children if you do right and let nothing terrify you.
First Peter 3:7 Likewise you husbands, live considerately with your wives, bestowing honor on the woman as the weaker gender, since you are joint heirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers are not hindered.
Second Peter 2:9 the Lord knows how to rescue the godly from trial, and to keep the non-righteous under punishment until the Day of Judgment,
Second Peter 2:10 and especially those who indulge in the lust of defiling passion and despise authority (unwilling to, in anti-Trinitarian bias, call Jesus the SON of God nor call HIM Lord, nor capitalize His masculine pronoun because of their sexist anti-patriarchal prejudicial hangup). Bold and willful, they are not afraid to revile the dignitaries...
"Doctrine does not matter?" Oh really?
Second John 1:9 Anyone who goes ahead and does not reside in the doctrine of Christ does not have God; those who remain in the doctrine have both the Father and the Son.
Second John 1:10 If anyone comes to you and does not bring this doctrine, do not receive them into the house or give them any greeting,
Second John 1:11 because whoever greets them shares their wicked work.
By current definition, "rape" is when either gender inserts a living or non-living object for sexual arousal intentions into the mouth, vagina, or rectum of another person without that person's conscious voluntary consent, whatever the age of the recipient.
In the case of a man self-stimulating himself with a female corpse or robotic doll or animal, such is not considered rape but instead sodomy.
And why do I call the synthesized computer-generated "female" voice of Google's GPS voice-guidance "Rachel?" I guess that "she" is my robotic virtual sex doll companion, simply and merely giving me directions and telling me where to go. And the wife does not mind the threesome arrangement. Neither does God, I guess. Better than nothing. Beats the heck out of using paper maps. Don't want to get a ticket for distractive driving with a map in front of my face.
It is generally assumed that a man and woman marry or get married, as male-at-birth husband and female-at-birth wife, to each other for purposes of heterosexual union of various types, extents, and frequency with each other, with the non-homosexual prospect of possible progenie production instead of consigning humankind to sterile extinction. Otherwise, both would be content with merely a brotherly or sisterly love (or friendship) association without erotic contact of any sort initiated or received by either one.
Male-at-birth and female-at-birth everyone must be content with rather than defying God and nature transsexually abusing themselves, contrary to KJV's First Corinthians 6:9.
Matthew 19:4 He [Jesus, and note the Greek-Text masculine gender] answered, "Have you not read that He who made them from the beginning made them male [with a from-birth penis] and female [with a from-birth vagina],
Matthew 19:5 and said, 'For this reason a [reproductively-male-from-birth] man shall leave his [reproduction-capable, biologically-male-from-birth] father and [reproduction-capable, biologically-female-from-birth] mother and be joined to his [reproductively-female-from-birth] wife, and the two shall become one flesh' [producing a genderless: 'IT'S a baby']?
[Sort of superficially flies in the face, or apparently contradicts: "there is neither male nor female, all being one in Christ" of Galatians 3:28?]
So if a person is a neuter that, which, or it thing, such an genderless object can reproduce gendered human beings with everlasting souls with eternal destinies, as long as IT is "in Christ" [whatever that means]?
Be grateful that your parents did not lose their particular gender in a godless insane drive become transsexual, nor abort you in irresponsible convenience....or perhaps you are suicidal -- whether an islamic-terrorist or kamikaze-jap crazy.
After all, Jesus DID engage in universal all-inclusive holy hate, by stating:
Luke 14:26 "If any one comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple."
Or even incapacitate yourself into permanent handicap by Brunei-suggested amputation because of some uncontrollable habit:
Matthew 5:27 "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.'
28 But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and throw it away; it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into Hell.
30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away; it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into Hell.
31 "It was also said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.'
32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, makes her an adulteress (even if she never marries anyone else, nor wants to, nor ever belongs to another man sexually?), and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery (because, as divorced, she [sexually?] belonged to another man, even if she did not initiate the divorce and thus herself did not "draw first blood", which by default categorizes you as an adulterer).
But DO the inferior gender have sexual desire - enough to convince the superior gender to overlook or tolerate their inadequacies and insufficiencies in so many things and take the big step to engage in eternal marriage with them?
Song of Solomon, and more, gives us the answer:
"The nipples of my bosom are for his enraptured desire, so that he does not waste himself on a harlot or adulterous milf" (Proverbs 5-7)
"Kiss me with the kisses of your mouth, your love is better than wine" (Song 1:2)
"Draw me after you, and let's hurry" (Song 1:3)
"With great delight I sat in his shadow and his fruit was sweet to my taste" [kneeling in front of him while doing fellatio?] (Song 2:3)
"Oh that his left hand were under my head, and his right hand embraced me, with no seductive-enticer distracting competition" (Song 2:6, 8:3)
"I sought him, found him, held him, and brought him into my mom's bedroom" (Song 3:1-4)
"I had taken off my clothes, bathed my feet, was thrilled when he had his hand on the doorknob, rose up to open the door for him, and opened it... (Song 5:2-6)
"He is so desirably handsome and sweet-talking" (Song 5:10-16)
"He will be captivated when I let my long hair loose and have that enticing mopheadedness erotically hang down" (Song 7:5)
"I belong to him, and want him to explore and enjoy my body, saved just for him" (Song 7:10-13)
"Oh that he would suck my breasts in my mother's bedroom as he holds me tight - without seductive-enticer distracting competition." (Song 8:1-4)
"Gracefully run to get me" (Song 8:14)
"He might want to explore my secret parts" (Isaiah 3:16-17)
"Quite likely he would be turned on by my naked buttocks when I am also barefooted" (Isaiah 20:4)
"It is probably his intention for me to titillate him by me stripping of my clothes and exposing my naked legs to him" (Isaiah 47:1-4)
"Sexy it would be for me to kick off my shoes, slip off my socks, and go barefoot for him like a slut for me to go after his love" (Jeremiah 2:20-25)
"I better keep my pubic hair without shaving it in preparation for betrothal" (Ezekiel 16:7-10)
"He might want me to spread my legs, erotically parting my feet for him, like whores do" (Ezekiel 16:25)
"...before he ejaculates his semen, like an animal, as he lays with me as stated in Leviticus 15:18 as I have fondled his penis as stated in Deuteronomy 25:11-12" (Ezekiel 23:8-21)
"But when out in public, I better stay modestly dressed with decent clothes, so that I do not sexually-enticingly nor sexually-harassingly turn other guys on who have no intention of soliciting me for coitus, nor I them." (Romans 14:13, First Corinthians 8:9, First Timothy 2:9-10)
Notice the exact words conveyed by the Holy Spirit to the inspired Jewish author Paul as to the precise details pertaining to all this in First Corinthians chapter 7 -- such terms as "touch" "should" "conjugal" "rule" "refuse one another" "agreement" "come together again" "lack of self-control" "should marry" "aflame with passion" "concession" "command" "consents" and "bound".
Each word is vital, crucial, and important when considering the subject of "spousal rape".
What if one of the spouses refuses to "come together again" because of demonic sexist frigidity? Or refuses some type of sexual contact, such as pussy-licking cunnilingus or penis-sucking fellatio? What should be done against a spouse who does that? Separation while remaining unhappily married? Acquisition of a covert or open additional-spouse concubine for the deprived husband stuck with a frigidly-sexist non-cooperative wife?
If there is no rational nor sensible reason for one of the spouses to not respond normally in an affectionate erotic way to the other spouse's sensual advances (of whatever form), is that considered a Hell-deserving sin one must repent of by submissive compliance thereafter?
The word "rule" is a very strong word, even though it is modified by consensual words in surrounding context. "Rule" definitely implies mandatory obligation, if the need is obviously there, on the part of either the husband or the wife or both simultaneously. And if such is not complied with, there are (at least in the case of an erotically-deprived husband who is neither a bishop or deacon) options which - though complicated - need to be reluctantly but assuredly, cautiously, and discreetly done rather than resorting to lusting with porn or adultery with a mistress, masseuse or escort prostitute.